“I can do it on my own.”
Let’s be honest; you can’t do everything on your own.
The need to have an ecosystem which allows you to reach your potential is more important today than ever before. If you could have done it on your own, you could have had it all by now. It requires you to ask for help.
If you were unwell, wouldn’t you go to a qualified person to take care of your physical health? Likewise, we go to our worship place or spiritual place to take care of our spiritual health then why is there this stigma attached to asking for help when it comes to our mental health.
So today I wanted to share with you, my experience with a life coach.
I had no clue what a life coach even was when I came across one. I thought it was a fancy term for someone like an agony aunt.
Well, they are not.
Coaches** are professionals who have gone through some tough training to get certified as coaches. They may have their own niche where they use the techniques specifically to help you with that particular issue. They use tools, techniques, strategies and discipline that applies to your particular problem/issue.
If you want to improve some aspect of your life where you are facing some challenge or you are stuck and want to do better. What you need is a third party’s objective perspective. You want someone who will hold you accountable and help you take actions. They help you see your problem objectively and suggest techniques and strategies that will help you deal with those issues.
So their primary intent is to take you to your optimal level in that particular area, be it work, health or relationships.
You may wonder how it differs from psychologists or psychiatrist?
Well, the difference is that the psychologists or psychiatrist helps you reach a functional level from a dysfunctional level. Whereas coaches help you reach an optimal level from a functional level.
So, how does this work?
The key component is perspective. Sometimes the problem is only in our head, and a good coach helps you look at things from a different viewpoint.
Typically, it works as one call a week over the telephone or through Skype. The call typically is for 30 minutes to an hour. You get on a call, and tell the coach your challenge and the coach starts asking you questions to get to the bottom of the issue at hand to get clarity. During this time, you begin to see and realize the core of the problem. Sometimes just that can resolve the problem, and sometimes action is required where the coach can help you come up with some strategy to address the problem and hold you accountable to ensure you are taking actions that you have committed to yourself.
So, to close the circle, if you feel stuck, and want to go from the functional level to your optimal level, try hiring a coach. It never hurts to have someone rooting for you to succeed. I feel that women today, who are juggling so many balls at a time, need that pillar. Whether you are single, married, a mother, working for someone else or building your empire. The need to have that ecosystem, that third party’s objective perspective, a coach in your corner is an absolute must. I invite you to check out The Sunshine Hut with Amy Roy. She is on a mission to promote positive thinking and perhaps that’s the most important thing we all need in our lives.
**Coaches are not always certified. One needs to do their due diligence and research well before working with a coach.